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Author: Cindy11 Subject: Bi or Lesbian?
pingpong
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posted on 05-28-2004 at 11:32 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Bi or Lesbian?

I've recently had my first sexual experience with another woman. I am happily married - my husband and I indulged ourselves with a threesome! However now I can't stop thinking about making love with a woman - I don't seem to be interested in my husband at all. I wonder if that is because the threesome idea is only a new thing? Or am I really a lesbian hiding from the truth?

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posted on 05-28-2004 at 11:34 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator


Hello Pingpong, what you are feeling is fairly normal....when one first has a physical encounter with a woman, it can be so intense, that is 'blow's your mind' - and preoccupies all your waking time after. However, like all things that overcome us at one time or another...it will pass. When? In time. The alternative of course, is to attempt to 'get it out of your system' and repeat the experience, one or more times and see how you then feel about the whole matter. I have slept with women (in a 3some situation), who are having their 'first' encounter with a woman and their behaviour has been fairly obsessive, concentrating all their attention on me, ignoring their male partner...and I put it down to the overwhelming intensity of female/female encounters, particularly first-time ones. Take some time to think...investigate the possibility of having another female encounter (obviously with your husband's input, if you are in a monogamous marriage) and then see how you feel. Time is a wonderful thing.
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posted on 05-28-2004 at 11:35 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator


You need to talk in great depths with your husband and see what works for you both.
I suggest you actually have a friendship/relationship to a same sex attracted women not jsut race in and have sex. Talk about issues and how your life is and how you feel.
I am not saying get permission from your husband as you are your own person. But if you want him in your life you need to tell him whats going on, he deserves that. Then after all that and you are feeling a little more confident in your feeling, maybe make love to a woman by yourself. See how everything goes.
No-one can make your mind up for you, only you can make the decisions these are just some things to think about.

Take care


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posted on 05-28-2004 at 11:53 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator


It' so true, i felt the same way, although i was thinking about it all the time before it happened...lol

It consumed me for months, i am also married and i am still unsure of my sexuality...
as it has been said time heals all, get more of it and it will settle down, well for me it has only made it worse..
If my hubby wasn't so supportive and so determend to make our relationship work and not throw away everything we have, it would have been the end of us.... to be truthful to myself and him, it still might.

But on that note, do it as a couple, you came into this situation as a team (you and your partner) keep it that way until you are more certain of your feelings, becuase doing it on your own will only cause more confusion...



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